Motherhood has been a wonderful journey. It is full of joy, laughter, tears, frustration, and exhaustion. But it’s a beautiful thing. There is nothing in my life so far that has been more fulfilling. Everyday, I watch my beautiful son grow, change, and learn new things. Everyday he’s a little bit different.
The best thing about being a mother is having a wonderful husband by my side who is also an amazing father! We talk about motherhood a lot. We blog about it. We have social media groups dedicated to it. I don’t see nearly as much talk about fatherhood. When I do, I often see negative talk about deadbeat dads. But fatherhood is a beautiful thing too. Being a father transforms a man. In my opinion, he becomes an even better person.
Shon has always been an amazing husband. He has been through my side through thick and thin. He has taken care of me in sickness and in health. He has loved me unconditionally even when I’m not being my best self. He encourages me. He and I have weathered every storm holding tightly to each other. He is affectionate. He’s loyal. He’s my very best friend!
During my pregnancy, Shon was so excited about our son. He was over the moon to feel him kick for the first time. He was elated to hear his heartbeat during that first ultrasound. Everything exciting for me was exciting for him. He talked about J all the time. He talked about how excited he was to meet him, his dreams for him, and what he’d look like. We dreamed together for our son.
When J was born, Shon was by my side, my pillar of strength when I felt like mine was failing. I was rushed to the operating room due to complications as soon as J was delivered. J was fortunately very healthy. We were in the hospital for four days, and I wasn’t able to walk until the third day. Watching Shon be a father was such a beautiful thing. He got to bond with J before I did. While we were in the hospital, he changed every diaper. He brought J to me. He cradled him and loved on him. He gushed over this beautiful child we’d brought into the world.
When we got home, every whimper would wake Shon up at night for at least two weeks. He would make sure I didn’t fall asleep feeding him. He was so alert and aware of him.
Now, it’s amazing to see their relationship blossom. J gets so excited to see Shon. Shon comes home from work, and J yells “Dada” and runs to him with arms outstretched. They play together and Shon has J screaming in laughter. They are buddies. I can’t wait to watch their relationship grow even more as J gets older.
I can picture J working on the car with Shon. I can picture them outside throwing a ball together. I know J will want to be just like him, and it’s a wonderful thing.
Motherhood is beautiful and it’s so very important. But Fatherhood is equally as beautiful and important! For the mothers and fathers doing this on your own, you have both roles to fill, and I know that must be tough. But if your child has an amazing father in their life, whether you are together or not, cherish that! Appreciate that! Not everyone is so fortunate to have an amazing father.
To my amazing husband, to my amazing dad, and to all of my friends and family members who are fathers, Happy Father’s Day. We couldn’t do this without you! And I certainly wouldn’t want to! Thank you for all you do as husbands and fathers. And know you are appreciated, needed, and wanted in the lives of your wives and children!
Shon, I love you more everyday! Happy Father’s Day, my love!